During the last LMS lesson, we had a role playing session whereby my group acted out on how backstabbing between friends will lead to anger. Backstabbing against your friends is one of the things that you should not be doing, friends are your closest aides always beside you supporting you along the way of life. However even though backstabbing towards your enemies is a descpicable act but it's sort of very effective and will do a deadly blow to your enemies when they least expect and please remember to deal them a deadly blow that they will never recover from for who knows you will be the one to suffer if they are allow to recover from it.... haha I'm a extremely evil and cunning person towards my enemies..so be careful don't try to offend me ^_^
Anyway back to the topic, I would say that I'm not a filial child as most of the time my anger would be directed to my family rather than my friends, my mother tends to nag a lot a lot always to a point i wouldn't be able to take it and will start to yell at her and quarrel.
She's 1 of the person that always can make my blood boils. In the past, I always sort of have poor anger management as i tends to flare up easily when being provoked.
I will be illustrating my how do i response to anger normally by classifying them into the term that i learn COW behavioural Responses to Anger in LMS
Control By confiding with my closest aides who has irritated me till i'm so angry Listen to music Go for a swim to calm myself
Outburst I would simply just throw anythings in my sight around the house when i am quarrelling with my mother or sisters if they really keep provokes me until i am ultimately pissed off... wahaha i'm a bad child...well ok....that my personal life anyway.. Or maybe scream loud with her
Lastly Withdrawal Sometimes i couldn't be bother with quarrelling with them when i'm weary, i would simply just lock my room door and shut myself in till the next time to get myself some peace.
Well, I understand that how 1 treats the family will reflects on 1 person's characters, but to me everyone is equal, i don't bother whether you are my elders or whoever as long as i feel that i am correct and you are unable to prove me that i'm wrong ..then to me you are the party that is in the wrong. I will simply just scold, yell or whatever depending on situations.
To me, friends are people which my tolerance limit will be set to the highest to try and tolerate perhaps they are not my closes 1 so my expectations of them wouldn't be high.
Only my closes aides like my best friends or family whom i have high expectations of ...my tolerance for them to do things wrong will be lower haha perhaps due to the fact the i assume after knowing me for so many years they should know the way i want things to be done.
Over the years, i have learnt from many of my personal experiences that anger is best expressed after you have calm down if not you might ruin the chances of progressing a friendship. One of my experiences i had was , I had just known a friend whom i can communicate well and if time permits i feel that we would have become best friends, however due to my mischevious i always like to disturb people by pulling hair, one day i disturb her best friends by pulling her hair, she went to help her friend to act as a big sister, we quarrelled even though i was in the wrong, i was very ego and didn't want to admit it.
Ever since then we never talk, until recently i added her on msn which was like 4 or 5 years later . I sort of regretted that i should have appologised that day as i'm in the wrong and shouldn't have quarrel with her in fit of anger as to protect my ego.
Next that i would say is that by being not angry,you sort of win in this situation as the person who had tried to make you angry has fail in his objective and you have not fall into his trap by being angry.
Lastly there are a few other things i have learnt in the lessons are physiological responses to anger like mood swings, headaches etc, emotional responses to anger like crying,disgust etc and directing of anger to the right person as it is wrong of us to direct our anger of quarrelling with your friends at your family members etc.
Edward Mah, Male, 22
04 November 1985
Hobbies : Watching Movies, Listening Music, Swimming, Surfing The Net
l0vEs & hAtEs
Loves to make new friends with same interests and views and eating.
Hates people who acts like close friends in front of you but stabs you in the back and dreads to eat raw food...*yUcks*
Songs:
1) Xu Jie Er - Mei You Ni De Mei Yi Tian
2) Le Couple - Hidamari No Uta
3) Ken Hirai - Hitomi Wo Tojite
4) S.E.N.S - Forbidden Love
5) Colin Raye - Love Me
